To deal with the Pain
HOW to go on living in the face of a GREAT LOSS
HOW to go on living in the face of a GREAT LOSS
To deal with the Pain and grief Start healing Your Pain Today
“I thought I’d never stop crying…”
Seven years ago my grief nearly destroyed my family and drove my friends away. But I have found an answer. This is my story…
If you are reading this, like me, you’re suffering, you’re lost and confused about why you react the way you do and why everyone else expects you to do this or the other, or to simply “get over it”. Sometimes makes you feel like you’re going crazy, or not trying hard enough.
I was really lost and even though I knew that crying was not going to solve anything, to begin with I could not stop it. My name is Penny – let me explain where all those tears came from and how I’ve found a way to get beyond that, and get on with my life.
The grief was consuming my life. I just had to do something…
After the death of my mother a couple of years ago I found myself struggling to deal with my pain, and my father’s. I am the only child, so dealing with everything fell to me. My mother was the one who managed things, did the paperwork, dealt with the bills and all of the daily life of the practical aspects of life. So there I was filled with my own grief at his loss, but is expected to deal with the legals, arrange the funeral, according to the organisation of support for my father, and try to make sure that all the rules are made things.
It was two days before Christmas when Mum died and that’s emotionally much more difficult, as well as practically very difficult, with much of the government and commercial world on Christmas leave.
Mentally, I became distanced from everything: I shut down my grief internally and focused on dealing with the practical stuff – just surviving each day. The problem was that every time I let my guard down, the pain, loss and confusion came back with a vengeance. I even started to avoid the places that my mother and I loved to visit so much together
Death, loss and pain are some of the least understood and talked about parts of our existence!
Distantly, I realized that it was not a good way to be, and went in search of any thing that I could find to help me deal with it, and that allows me to help my father cope. I realized that what I needed was information about what was happening to me. I wanted to understand why he was acting the way I was. I wanted to be sure that I was not going crazy.
I easily found some very basic pieces of information of the government organizations in their requirements, but that was mostly dry legal stuff about what forms I need to submit to whom and when.
In line, in pain and bereavement support forums and bulletin boards were full of people that were so afflicted and in need of help, as I, and many who might have had the best of intentions, but insisted that their way of dealing with life is the only way, and everyone else has no clue.
I have spent a lot of money on grief therapy sessions and spent a lot of time with the local priest – both the therapist and priest were well meaning and helpful people but I quickly I realized that just pose the same information time and time again (and it was his vision of things , with the lack of flexibility to cope with the way I saw the world), expecting me to just accept it and “get over” my pain.
There was No information available about why I and my father were reacting and acting the way we were, nor about what to do, how to understand and move forward. What little I was of the opinion, very locally focused, or put forward from one perspective only, there was no allowance for different needs, beliefs, backgrounds or cultures.
Not only had to be a better way!
I was determined to understand what my father and I were going through what I started to do my own research. I’ve read all the books he could find on grief (and really were not many) and spoke with other people who were also in the process of dealing with the pain. As I did so, I came to understand that, at some point in our lives, we all face the loss of someone, or something, that we matter a lot. I also noticed that in almost all cases, there is absolutely nothing that we can do to prevent the loss or change of the circumstances in which it occurs. Inevitably, then, we all must deal with the fact that, no matter how we feel devastated by the loss, the world around us is going to continue as if nothing had changed.
I spent several years of my time, and many thousands of dollars, the investigation of the worth and learning all that he could to help me heal. There was nowhere that gave an in-depth set of information on the subject, in easy to understand terms to help me. I had to read hundreds of books and articles, and the search of each piece of information individually.
“Facing the Pain” is the book that I wished I had at the time!
Once I was able to gather all the information, I realized that what I was feeling was normal! This allowed me to regain control of my life and deal with my grief step by step.
I have learned that there is no one “right” way to mourn for those we have lost, and that grief affects us all in different ways. What my father and I were going through was normal and natural. I also realized that it was not necessary to be angry with my father or myself.
I came to understand that my husband and my children and my friends felt so helpless as I was. All of them were trying to help me, but none of them knew how to do it in a way that makes sense to me.
As time passed, I decided to search and gather the information that I had so desperately needed, so that it is available for others. This is the reason why I wrote “coping with Grief”.
“This book has helped me understand and forgive myself. I have
now he found the strength to go on…”
Narelle 1, Sydney, Australia.
What I am offering you is the information and knowledge that will help you understand that grief is a natural reaction to death and loss. Knowledge that will help you understand why you feel angry and helpless, why you have trouble sleeping, and why simple things seem so difficult to do.
In this book you will find
All this in an easy to read package, which you can download and use in the privacy of your own home, without the need of exposing your personal pain to a therapist, or even your family, until you are ready. Without the need of spending long hours searching the libraries or on the Internet and trying to separate useful facts from mere opinion. You can benefit from all these years, and thousands of dollars that I spent finding and consolidating this information, today.
Inside “coping with Pain” you will find all the information that will help you understand and learn
“How to deal with the Pain” that gives YOU the information you need to understand yourself, regain control of your life and to choose the best way for you to recover from the pain and the loss.
“This book has saved my relationship with family – now I understand why people reacted as they did and we have forgiven each other”
I have spent years, and thousands of dollars, doing the research and putting “coping with Grief” together. This is a huge eBook of 85 pages, packed with essential information. The benefits to be gained from reading this book are a great investment in your emotional future – understanding of your reactions (and those of your loved ones) to grief, the ability to deal more easily with your grief, ideas and insights for understanding others reactions, and an awareness of the things that you need to do to cope with the stress, and all this at a fraction of the cost of what a therapist session might cost.
If you or a loved one is suffering from loss and pain, don’t miss this limited-time offer – get help today – understand your reactions and begin the healing.
This is an investment in your emotional future.. do not miss this opportunity. Understanding your responses and those of their loved ones is the key to dealing with your pain and change your life for the better. Start your healing process today.
1) testimonial provided by a pre-release reviewer
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